WHY ARE MEN AFRAID OF SEX TOYS?

Whenever the topic of sex toys comes up in a group conversation, it’s always interesting to see the reactions. Some get excited and giddy, some shy away while others take a firm stance against the thought of bringing a “foreign object” into the bedroom. And it’s also interesting to see that the latter bunch are usually the guys. Why is that? What are men so afraid of?

It is assumed that this illogical fear is hundreds of years in the making. Men have been assigned the gender role of “provider” and if they feel they cannot provide pleasure to their woman, but a tiny piece of silicone can, then they might be deemed inferior or inadequate. As you read this you can probably feel yourself cringing at how narrow-minded that perspective is, especially in this day and age.

The other notion is the fear that a sex toy will replace the man. A typical response we often get from men is “My wife/girlfriend doesn’t need a sex toy, she has me.” Gone are the days of sex toys being associated with porn or dodgy adult shops. Technology and women empowerment has come a very long way since then, and it seems that men have been struggling to keep up. If a lady wants to get a sex toy, she doesn’t need a man’s permission.

So how do we help our men get over this? It’s a simple shift in mindset. And this can only be achieved through communication. We need to explain to our men that a introducing a toy into the bedroom is not a replacement, but an add-on. The toy’s purpose is to improve on an already fun activity and should be enjoyed together.

Once the tension has eased, start experimenting! Make a whole adventure out of it! Do some online research together, go shopping together. Start with something small just to try out the water and perhaps start building a collection together. There are amazing toys out there not just for women, but specifically designed for couples and men.

A change of perspective can open an entire new world for any couple.

Since when was playing with toys and a friend not fun?

~ Moonlight Candy Team

10 LITTLE KNOWN FACTS ABOUT BREAST CANCER

Did you know that breast cancer is the most common type of cancer for women? Yet how much do you actually know about it? Well here are 10 facts that you probably don’t know, but should, about breast cancer.

1. Men also get breast cancer 99% of breast cancer cases occur in women. This means that while breast cancer in men is very rare, it does occur. A man’s lifetime risk of breast cancer is about 1 in 1,000.

2. Breast cancer is the second biggest killer As if you needed another reason to stop smoking or vaping, lung cancer is the number one leading cause of cancer-related deaths. Breast cancer is the second biggest cause of cancer deaths among women.

3. Get yourself tested! Regularly Women who get regularly screened for breast cancer have a 47% lower risk of dying from the disease compared to those who don’t.

4. The numbers sound bad, but are getting better Every minute, somewhere in the world, a woman dies from breast cancer. That’s more than 1,400 women every day. BUT breast cancer deaths have been declining since 1990 thanks to early detection, better screening, increased awareness, and new treatment options.

5. What is breast cancer? And what causes it? Breast cancer is the uncontrolled growth of breast cells. The most significant risk factors for breast cancer are being female and aging. A woman’s risk for developing breast cancer increases as she gets older.

6. The odds of getting breast cancer 12% of women – or 1 in 8 – develop breast cancer. A woman’s risk for developing breast cancer almost doubles if her mother, sister, or daughter has breast cancer.

7. You cannot prevent it, but you can decrease your risk Breast cancer cannot be prevented, but there are things such as diet, exercise, and other healthy lifestyle choices that can help decrease your risk for developing breast cancer (like weight loss, quit smoking, being active, stop drinking alcohol…)

8. Symptoms aren’t the same for everyone

Breast cancer warning signs and breast cancer symptoms can vary greatly. However, don’t assume that you are cancer free because you do not have the typical symptoms. Some women with breast cancer don’t have symptoms at all. This makes regular breast cancer screenings especially important.

9. Mammograms save lives

Mammograms are proven to reduce the rate of death from breast cancer. Experts recommend annual screening mammograms for women starting at age 40.

10. The Cancer Association of Namibia Also known as CAN, these wonderful people dedicate their lives to lead the fight against cancer and its consequences countrywide for the benefit of all Namibians by supporting research; health education and information; care and support services. You can read more about what they do and how you can help at www.can.org.na

Moonlight Candy Team

MY EERSTE SPEELDING

Die Moonlight Candy Span kry gereeld boodskappe van dames wie nuuskierig is oor ons speelgoed, maar dit is hul eerste keer dat hulle oorweeg om een te koop. Dit kan intimiderend of oorweldigend wees want hoe weet jy wat om te kies? Sê nou dit is te groot, of te klein, of my maat hou nie daarvan nie?

So om hierdie dames gerus te stel en ‘n bietjie leiding te gee gaan ons 5 van ons gunsteling wenke met jou deel wanneer dit kom by jou eerste seks speelding.

1. Leer eers jouself ken...met jou vingers

Miskien het jy al en is gereed om aan te beweeg na iets meganies. Maar as jy nog nie het nie, is dit ‘n goeie idee om te weet waarvan jy hou voor jy iets gaan soek om mee verder te speel. Dit is al hoe jy sal weet watse tipe speelding om te kies. En onthou, jy hoef dit nie alleen te doen nie!

2. Dit hoef nie soos ‘n tottie te lyk nie

Jy hoef nie noodwendig weg te bly van speelgoed wat lyk soos ‘n penis nie, maar besef dat daar is hordes speelgoed wat die werk gedoen gaan kry wat GLAD NIE soos ‘n meneer se “meneer” lyk nie. Baie van die speelgoed is spesiaal ontwerp volgens die vrou se anatomie en wat die gemaklikste vir haar sal wees.

3. Begin klein

As iemand wat begin is dit dalk ‘n goeie idee om met iets minder intimiderend te begin. Jou maat sal waarskynlik ook minder bedreig voel. Speelgoed wat gemaak is vir uitwendige gebruik is gewoonlik kleiner (soos “wands” en “stimulators”), maar daar is ook kleiner weergawes van die wat vir binne bedoel is of beide binne en buite.

4. Koop iets ordentlik

Doen jou navorsing. Dit hoef nie iets duur te wees nie, in teendeel, begin dalk met ietsie goedkoper. Maar maak net seker die kwaliteit is goed. Baie belangrik om seker te maak dit is van ‘n goeie gehalte materiaal. Waterdig is ook goed om te hê, veral as jy van plan is om in die stort te speel. En jy wil ook nie elke week nuwe batterye koop nie, so soek maar een wat herlaaibaar is. Kyk ook of die materiaal nie dalk iets is waarvoor jy allergies kan wees nie, maar gewoonlik is mediese-graad silikon en glas goeie opsies.

5. Jy kan altyd nog een koop

Moenie jou kop breek as jy nie weet of jy die regte keuse gemaak het nie. Die goed raak nie op nie. Soos jy eksperimenteer sal jou gou agterkom waar jou knoppies sit en hoe om hulle te druk. Onthou dit is jou EERSTE speelding en dit hoef nie jou laaste te wees nie. Begin ‘n versameling en gaan hê ‘n avontuur!

- Die Moonlight Candy Span